Playing with Fire

Right now, my wife and I are in the process of redoing some things in our bedroom, and it has turned into quite the project. I joked with her about revisiting an earlier post (Unlocking the minivan, just like God would) but instead, calling it "Remodeling the bedroom, just like Satan would." She didn't think it was near as funny as I did, but I thought I had a point.

After all, Satan tries to get us into sin through small things. He never suggests we outright murder someone, but plants seeds of anger and hate that, left unchecked, will grow into murder. That's a lot like this project. It started as a simple "paint the walls" kind of deal. Now, after a few steps, we've tore up carpet to restore the wood floor buried underneath. But since this project was my wife's idea, she felt that maybe I was referring to her as the devil, which is not something I'm able to do while maintaining a happy marriage.


Instead, she suggested that I should write "Remodeling the bedroom, just like God would" and talk about how God will restore our old beauty to us, and though it may take lots of blood, sweat, and tears, the end result will be much like this finished wood floor: beautiful and worth all the effort. Go figure, huh? So rather than debate with my wife which it should be, I'll shut my mouth and move on to something entirely different.

Instead, I will blog about my new favorite tool: the heat gun. For those of you who have never used one before, it's not quite a flame thrower, but it's way better than a blow dryer. I will say that using it makes me feel kind of like the guy in the picture. There is a very real sense of power and destruction when using one of these things. Now if you've ever used a heat gun, you know I'm dramatizing a bit here (or a lot...), but it is a pretty fantastic tool. Truth be known, it's an awful lot a blow dryer, only more powerful. Currently I'm using it to heat the glue that is on the aforementioned wood floor so that it may be scraped up easily. Unfortunately, it is a difficult process, but it is the best I've found yet. Let me detail my anguish for you:

First, we tried sanding the glue off with one of those high-powered floor sanders that you have to rent from a hardware store and throws your breakers, leaving you standing quietly in the dark. Yeah, good times. This thing actually created more problems for me. Sanding the floor got the glue hot, which made the glue sticky again, and then hardened it more than it was before. So, after a rental fee and lots of sweat (and also gluing a sheet of sandpaper to my floor), we tried something else. Namely, mineral spirits.

They sound so elegant and lovely, don't they? Mineral spirits. It brings to mind something that fancy people drink in France after a high-dollar dinner with cheese and snails. No. No. No. It's more like turpentine. The jug warns of the burns you will receive if you touch it, but promises to be a beast when it comes to removing adhesive. From experience, the answer is no. While no glue came up, I did manage to get a dizzy feeling that reminded me of high school (where lots of bad things happened). So, forget the solvents.

Remembering how the sandpaper was glued to the floor, the next thought was to get the glue hot and scrape it up. Except I still hadn't heard of a heat gun, so I used a clothes iron instead. All I had to do was get a rag wet, lay it on the floor, and then put the hot iron on the rag. And you know what? It worked! Slowly. Also, the glue managed to work it's way through the rag and coat the iron. It will never touch clothing again. Finally, someone suggested the heat gun. I'd love to say the rest is history, but it's still a work in progress.

Anyway, all that being said, I've learned some pretty valuable lessons that cross over into the spiritual realm. First and foremost, when you're getting into uncharted territory, it is okay to ask for help. Video tutorials on YouTube do not count. Find someone who has been there and let them help you. Had I done that, the sander would not have been rented until after the glue was off the floor, and the glue would have likely come up with some light scraping. In the same way, you are not the first person to walk the road you are on. You have 2,000 years worth of experience ahead of you. Your first line should be to pray about whatever difficulty you are facing. After all, God knows. Second of all, ask some men in your church, maybe your pastor, or any other man who has been there. Your situation, however difficult, is not unique.

Second, you may never get the job done until you get the right tool in your hand. It doesn't matter how long you keep your nose on that old grindstone, you will just end up without a nose. Try something different. Change your approach. Stop beating your head against the wall. So many times, a church will say that they do things a certain way because they always have. People change, both inside and outside the church. Try a different approach. I will agree that the gospel never changes, but the packaging can. Just like Jesus used parables on farming when talking to farmers, you can be relevant, too. Prostitutes and drug addicts probably don't get the farming stories.

And probably most important of all, fire makes any job easier. Just like the heat gun is really doing wonders on this stubborn glue, the disciples learned on the day of Pentecost how vital that Holy Fire really is. You have simply got to have the power of God behind you if you expect to be effective. Sure, you can do some things without it, but if you really want to set your world on fire, you'd better bring the flames. Otherwise, you are all talk and no spark.

That's it for now. If you need me, I'll be on the bedroom floor, trying not to burn my house down.

Ryan Saffer
Community Site Coordinator

Jesus saves, and also recycles

Since I'm not going to post 1,000 words for you, let's just get this over with.

There. This is the world-renowned Christ the Redeemer statue in Brazil. And yeah, it's green. Not like an M&M, not like the Grinch, but more like Al Gore (without the slimy haircut...).

Jesus turned green after the Rio+20 summit in Belo Horizonete, Brazil. At this summit, Jerusalem's deputy mayor for planning and environment, Naomi Tsur, suggested that such religious icons worldwide could be utilized as vehicles to push the "eco-agenda." In addition to the above statue turned lime jello, Bethlehem, Calvary, and the grave of King David were discussed.

Before one of you start verbally-pummeling me for hating the Earth, that is not the case. I am adamantly against littering, wastefulness, and other nature hating behaviors. I recycle when I can, and usually bring my own coffee cup to refill at gas stations. Also, I only shower once a week to conserve water. Okay, the last part isn't true... You're welcome.

I would even go as far as to say that it is my duty as a Christians to be a good steward of the planet that God has given to me, but that is where the bus stops. This is going to far. While I would be willing to bet that if Jesus were walking the earth today that He would recycle, I don't think He'd spend much time pushing the issue. Rather, He would be preaching the gospel to the lost and encouraging and building up His people to do the same. He'd be healing the sick, raising the dead, and setting the captives free. As they say, He's got bigger fish to fry, and I think using Christ to push an environmental agenda (or any other agenda for that matter) is an attempt to cheapen God Himself.

I've heard that Jesus is a Republican. I've also heard He is a Democrat. However, the Bible says that a double-minded man is unstable in all of his ways, so Jesus can't be both. Some of us (probably all of us) are wrong about His politics, although I know He would've been good at them, because He was always kissing babies. I've seen bumper stickers that tout Jesus as a Denver Broncos fan. After all, aren't sunsets orange? Depending on who you ask, Jesus was gay. He was also straight, and married with children. Jesus is better than super heroes, drugs, and Santa Claus, but He isn't as tough as Chuck Norris (if you ask the right, or wrong people).

You know what? Jesus is the Son of God. He was born of a virgin, lived without sin, died on a cross so I wouldn't have to, and offers us life everlasting. Jesus is so much more than a political tool: He is King! Jesus isn't green. He is God. Any attempt to turn Jesus into something that He isn't is an affront to Him and is a surefire way to prove that you don't really know Him all that well.

Ryan Saffer
Community Site Coordinator

Thorns of lust

First, an update. In my pursuit of Jesus, I'm through Matthew and partway into Mark. It has also come to my attention that Jesus said a lot more in Revelation than I had previously thought. I knew about the seven letters at the beginning, but there is quite a bit at the end, too. Check it out!

And now, a question. Will men ever be free of sexual sin this side of Heaven? I would guess that anyone who has ever struggled in sexual sin has asked this question, and usually asked it in a moment desperation. A man reaches that point where he feels like there is no hope, and sometimes like there is no God. We turn to Scripture and find little comfort. While there are those who suggest that this sin is our "thorn in the flesh," we find no peace or rest on a God who wants us free but keeps us bound (presumably for humility's sake).

Man, if this is you, be comforted. No sin will ever be your thorn in the flesh, just as no sin could have been Paul's thorn. How does a man say that he no longer fulfills the lusts of the flesh subject himself to that same flesh? While I do not know with any amount of certainty what Paul's thorn was, I am most certain of what it was not: sin.

As a man who has walked that dark road, I know that it is not merely practicing sin, but is rather walking under the bondage of sin. And Christian, if you are a child of God, you ought not to serve two masters. Now before you click me off, I'm not saying that anyone who struggles with sin of any kind is not truly saved. That would be stupid. But I'm telling you this: You do not have to be bound up in your lifestyle. While I am talking specifically here about sexual sin, the same can be said to the alcoholic, to the hot-tempered, or to the gossip. You are no longer required to be a slave to that sin.

I know it's not always popular to say so, but it isn't God's fault that we struggle. Most of our readers here would not question Christ's victory over sin, so let's follow that line to it's logical end. Christ wouldn't expect you to stay under an enemy that is already defeated. Jesus has set us free. Our chains have fallen to our sides in clanging heaps, our long-sealed prison doors have begrudgingly creaked open, and our cruel warden has been bound up by our King who has pardoned us. So what do you do? It is within your power to remain in jail where you will receive "three hots and a cot" just as you always have, but it is also in your power to stand up and walk out of prison and into the freedom which has been provided for you. Sounds simple enough, doesn't it? Trust me when I say that it is.

Yes, I've shifted all the blame from God onto you. Hurts, doesn't it? I know. But look on the bright side. While you may say that I've placed blame, there is also responsibility. And where there is responsibility, God has given you and I the authority to deal with our problems. So the question isn't what is God going to do about our sin, because He already did all that He could on the cross. Instead, what are we going to do about our sin? Allow me to offer a bit of practical advice.

1. Call it what it is. Don't make any more excuses for it. You do not sin because you are a man. It is not merely a natural response to your increased levels of testosterone. It is sin, such as will separate you from God. It is activity unfit for a Christian to participate in, and it's a cancer slowly eating away at your soul. Yes, you are tempted, and yes the pressure is great. But greater is He that is in you than He that is in the world, and God will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you can bear. Do you know what that means? You are stronger than you think. As I have, you have probably felt like you "had to" sin at some point. I don't buy that anymore, and I don't think you honestly can either.

2. Don't tolerate it, don't accept it. While we can often minimize our aberrant behaviors as "normal" or "not that big of a deal," we cannot deny that sin is sin. Remember Dr. Seuss's elephant Horton? "A person's a person, no matter how small." Sweet sentiments, but let's make it nasty. "A sin is a sin, no matter how small." How much manure will you tolerate in your pie? What about just a little bit? I promise you won't even taste it! Disgusting!! And yet we treat sin the same way. Only a little bit, no one will notice. Or maybe a lot, as we've gotten used to it. Treat sin as that manure pie: spit it out and don't touch it again. Doubtless you don't like to admit it, we oftentimes enjoy sinning. That has to change.

3. Knock it off. Simple, right? Like I said, it can be. When Jesus healed the blind men in Matthew 9, He asked them "Do you believe I am able to do this?" Their answer, of course, is "Yes, Lord." So He said to them "let it be according to your faith." Basically, He said "I will give you exactly what you are expecting to receive from me." The same is offered to you. If you question whether God wants you bound in sin or not, read the Bible. I am sure that you will see a God who has provided for our absolute freedom, if only we would accept it. Proverbs 23:7 says that "As a man thinketh, so he is." If you think you are a slave to your sin, you are correct. But the get that Bible in you. "When the Son of Man sets you free, you are free indeed!"

So will men ever be free of sexual sin this side of Heaven? Men will be as free as they want. The question I ask instead is "Will men ever want freedom more than they want sin?"


Ryan Saffer
Community Site Coordinator

Homosexual leadership in the Church

I find myself compelled to discuss the difficult topic of homosexual leadership within the Church. As a man who has provided counsel to men who struggle with homosexuality this is not a topic I take lightly. I’ve never known what it feels like, but I’ve listened to men as they attempt to explain the pain they feel while wrestling with homosexuality and Christianity. The message often comes through tears as they describe to me how they love and desire to honor God and at the same time feel so naturally homosexual that they could never imagine living a different lifestyle. I share this because I want to be clear that I believe the pain and struggle are real. It’s heartbreaking for me to hear and as a compassionate human there is something inside of me that wants to tell them that there is nothing wrong or sinful about living what feels to be a natural lifestyle for them. I believe it’s the same “human instinct to comfort” that’s working inside of me that has also driven many modern Churches to embrace homosexuality.

This discussion is one of leadership. I am not attempting to answer the question of can a person be both Christian and a homosexual, though I am sure some of the arguments I make here can be directly applied to that topic. I am solely addressing the topic of can an open and practicing homosexual hold a position of leadership within the Church.

What compels me to discuss this is an open topic on our community site written by one of our long time community users. In that topic he explains how he has wrestled with the concepts of grace, several teachings of Jesus, the constant sinful condition of man, and trying to find a place within the Church for homosexuals. I believe this man is a Christian and I’ve often appreciated his insights on various topics. I do not believe him to be heretic, to be demon possessed, or standing against the message of God’s salvation through Jesus Christ. I think he’s a good man who wrestles with the same desire I mentioned above. He sees the pain and wants to find a place for all men. He wants to tell them everything is okay. He has come to the conclusion that people living homosexual lifestyles are no worse sinners than the rest of us and because of that they shouldn't be excluded from serving the Church in any capacity. While well intentioned, I cannot agree with his conclusion that practicing homosexuals can also be active leaders within the Church.

I want to zero in on the core issue here. All men are sinners. I agree that homosexuals are no worse sinners than the arrogant and condescending jerks who perpetuate hate against them, or the rest of us for that matter. I will even go one step further than to agree that all men have sinned and I will say that all men will continue to sin. There is no such thing as a sin free person, before or after knowing Christ. This is a serious issue the Church needs to understand about its leaders. Pastors are all still active sinners. They are all still fallible. It shocks the Church when we find out that one of our leaders has had an affair, or that the associate Pastor has an addiction to porn. The more shocking thing to me is that we continue to hold men up as though they are more than just men.

How then do we reconcile the undeniable fact that all men will sin going forward in life with the higher calling we place on our leaders? Do we actually have to take a look at the specific sin? Do we have to judge which sins are more or less important? No, I don’t think we have to do that.

What we have to examine is the individual leader’s response to their sin. Yes, we are talking about repentance and in the light of this discussion it becomes even more important than ever before. We need to discuss what it means to embrace a lifestyle of sin as opposed to living in this world as a sinful person.

There are indeed Christians in our world who struggle with homosexuality. There are men and women who feel the desire to live as homosexuals but because of their desire to follow God and their understanding that homosexuality is a sin, they choose not to practice homosexual behaviors. These individuals are not living a lifestyle of sin. They are living no differently than all the men out there who serve God and struggle with lust. They fight tooth and nail against a predisposed sin because they love God. These Christians are doing their best to align themselves with a Christ-like attitude and life. I would welcome these men into a position of leadership no differently than the rest.

Individuals who live a sinful lifestyle have accepted their behavior and embraced it as a part of who they are. They have either come to the conclusion that their behavior isn’t sin and they live in disagreement with God or they have concluded that God doesn’t care about their lifestyle of sin because His Grace covers it.

This discussion is completely worthless to anyone who comes to the conclusion that homosexuality isn’t sin. I have no thoughts of any value to add to those individuals on this topic.

If we as a Church are going to embrace leaders who believe homosexuality is a sin, and continue to live in an openly homosexual lifestyle, then we need to understand what we are doing. By that act, we are throwing repentance out the window and declaring that we don’t care what God’s Word says. Yes, we are truly giving everyone a seat at the table, but at what cost and to what table? We’d also better be ready to accept with open arms into leadership anyone else who lives a lifestyle of sin regardless of what sin that is. To do any different would be to place ourselves in the seat of judgment where we do in fact pick which sins are acceptable.    

Let’s expand on what it means to live a lifestyle of sin. This is very important. Lifestyle means that it permeates everything we do, that it never leaves; it is a part of who we are, and is not temporary or occasional. Homosexual feelings are not a lifestyle. The incidence of a homosexual behavior is not a lifestyle. The ongoing and willing integration of those two into one’s daily life is.

Drinking an alcoholic beverage is not a lifestyle. The incidence of getting drunk is not a lifestyle. Being a drunk is a lifestyle just as is being a homosexual.

A drunk is a person who has embraced the notion that life is better with alcohol constantly in their system. A drunk wakes up in the morning and cracks open a beer, makes themselves a bloody mary, or just takes a swig from the bottle next to their bed. They head off to work with alcohol in their system, have another drink or three at lunch and grab some more alcohol on the way home from work. When they get home they get hammered, pass out, and wake up the next day to do it all over again. It’s an all day, everyday affair. Can a Christian be a drunk, getting bombed daily, waking with a drink, passing out every night and view it as an acceptable lifestyle to God? Sounds absurd, doesn’t it?

How about the Pastor of your Church? Can he be a drunk? Not someone who struggles with alcohol and fights it tooth and nail, but someone who lives life as a drunk. How about a Prostitute? How about an adult film star? Look, times are tough and the economy is giving many Churches a beating, is it cool with you if your Pastor makes some extra cash on the side selling meth? I’m in no way trying to make light of homosexuality but there are many people out there who view the things I mentioned above as acceptable lifestyles too. That’s where the line must be drawn. The leaders of the body of Christ cannot live and behave in a consistent state of opposition to God; they cannot decide to embrace any form of sin more than the legitimacy of God’s Word regardless of how natural the sin may feel.

To conclude the conversation about the difference between living a lifestyle of sin and the fact that man will always have incidences of sin, let’s take a look at John chapter 8. In this famous passage, a woman caught in adultery is brought before Jesus by accusers who are attempting to trap Jesus. They are doing so with the difficult question of grace versus judgment. After Jesus asks those men (who are attempting to trap Him) if there is any among them who was without sin and who was willing to throw the first stone to kill the woman, the men give up their feeble attempt to trap God and leave. Yes, Grace won and the woman’s life was saved. However, don’t get caught up in the idea that these men were attempting to judge her, they were only there in an attempt to trap Jesus. However the woman does receive the gift of grace from our LORD but the grace given to her has absolutely nothing to do with the sin of the men attempting to trap Jesus. It is only because Jesus has the authority and is willing to bestow grace upon her that she is given it. The sinful person does not get God’s grace simply because every other person is just as sinful. That is an insult to the sacrificial love of our God, Creator, and Savior.

After the accusers are gone Jesus says this:

John 8:10 …”Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” 11 “No one, sir,” she said. “Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.” (NIV)

Which is it, go and sin no more, or go now and leave your life of sin? The King James Version translates it as “go and sin no more” while the New King James Version adds a foot note explaining that several texts include the words “from now on”. The English Standard Version also translates verse 11 to say “go, and from now on sin no more.”

In all of the translations the message is clear, Jesus gives grace and then tells her to go and make a change in her lifestyle. He is not telling her to leave his presence and never commit a sin again in her life, Jesus knows that isn’t realistic. He’s saying I am not standing here right now, in this moment, to condemn you, go and change your lifestyle. This isn’t a story of free grace because of the sins of other men. This is Jesus giving a sinful woman the opportunity to change.

I think it’s also worth noting that many people believe that the woman in this text might have been Mary Magdalene, who later became one of Jesus’ followers. If that was in fact the case, do you think that she changed her lifestyle or that Jesus continued to welcome her as a follower while she continued living as an adulteress? Now I’m just being ridiculous, aren’t I?                 

Circling back to the painful portion of the conversation; I believe the desire to embrace homosexuality within the Church springs from a good-natured desire to love, comfort, and affirm one another. Those within the Church who choose the approach of embracing and affirming homosexuality do so because its feels much better and is less painful than the alternative. How do you look someone you love in the eye and tell them that what feels to be a natural or preferred lifestyle to them is sin, that it is wrong, that it isn’t natural and that according to God they need to make a very uncomfortable change? You do it with honesty and love, expecting to share their pain rather than shielding them from it.   

Let me explain a little more about the connection between drunkenness and homosexuality. I know at this point there are many people reading this who will take exception to my comparison of the two. I encourage those individuals not to get caught up judging between sins and to keep an open mind because the two have a lot in common.

Earlier I mentioned struggling against a predisposed sin and this is probably the strongest tie the two lifestyles share. Many homosexuals share that their feelings are so natural that they believe they were born gay or at a minimum had some sort of genetic predisposition to it. Science bears out that there are clearly individuals who are born with a predisposition to substance abuse. Nature or nurture and often both, play a large role in determining who will and will not struggle with alcohol abuse in their lives. Between homosexuality and alcoholism there is considerably more science to back a predisposition to alcoholism. As an individual with both alcoholics and homosexuals in my family, I will simply agree that be it nature or nature, individuals can be predisposed to both.

How do you tell someone with a natural desire to be drunk that what they desire is sin, and that it isn’t socially acceptable? Do you shield them from the pain by telling them that everything is okay and that they should embrace their natural feelings? Again that sounds absurd. There are many people, who have had that difficult conversation with loved ones, choosing not to shield them from the pain of a difficult realization that they need to live contrary to their natural desires. They have that honest and painful conversation out of love and I don’t think the approach the Church takes in either the case of alcoholism or homosexuality should be any different. How can we as the body of Christ fail to ask for the same change that Jesus did? Even worse, what happens if and when we fail to do so?

Proverbs 24:26 says “An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips” (NIV).

Proverbs 29:5 says “Whoever flatters his neighbor is spreading a net for his feet.” (NIV) 

This topic comes down to two approaches, uncomfortable honesty or feel good flattery. As I said at the beginning, this discussion is one of leadership. I don’t care what your sinful lifestyle may look like, I want your rear end in a seat at my Church this Sunday. I do care that you’ve been able to demonstrate repentance and wisdom in your life before I’m going to allow you to lead others within my Church. Our leaders are our examples, we hold them to our highest standards and while they are still active sinners they can’t live in constant unrepentant opposition to God. If we accept that, the net we are spreading is for the feet of everyone who is following them.   

As the body of Christ we must reach out to all men, we must encourage everyone to come to Christ and we must find a way to minister to homosexuals. I want people who struggle with homosexuality and other lifestyle sins to come and be given the same opportunity to change that Jesus gave the adulteress. We can’t lie to them for the sake of saving their feelings. Oh how reckless is the easy way out.      

Ryan Reeves

Founder and Director

ryanreeves@menofjesus.org

Authentic Manhood

In Men’s ministry these are the buzz words of all buzzwords. Authentic Manhood; it sounds impressive and yet simple. Yet it no doubt has a certain mystique or mystery to it. Men wonder what it really means and how they can get to the top of this magnificent summit. Then they believe, they will have concurred life and everything that stands in the way of their feeling like a man.

Is it really possible that there is a Christian version of the Dos Equis guy hiding within all of us? Say it with me now; “Stay thirsty my friends.” I doubt it; at least I don’t see how that works. Funny thing is that even the Dos Equis guy is poser. We all know he is just a rip off Spanish version of Sean Connery anyway. Besides we’ve seen Sean Connery do much cooler stuff. So needless to say, I am not buying it.

Let’s take a look at the famous buzz words for a bit. Authentic means real or genuine. Manhood is the state of being a man. Why not just call it what it is then; being a real man. 

I’m a real man. That’s right, I said it. That’s the statement we are all trying to make. If we are going to discuss authentic manhood let’s just keep it simple. What does it mean to be a real man? Let’s be real with it instead of trying to fancy it up with some sort of mystique. We don’t need to be like the Dos Equis guy and hide it behind some sort of ripped off identity.

What does it mean to be a real man? This is me asking you the question and challenging you to figure it out for yourself. I am going to give you my answer. Feel free to use it if you like, but please make it unique to you in your own way. My answer is found all over the ministry I lead. You really don’t need to look any further than our logo and its all there. A real man follows Jesus and leads his world. Please allow me to work my way though that definition with you all.

It takes a man who’s got a pair to actually follow Jesus, especially in our world today. Let’s get one thing straight, right here and right now. I said follow Jesus, not believe in Jesus. The rich young ruler believed in Jesus, but he didn’t have the “boys” to go and sell off all his stuff and follow Him. So did countless other people, including Judas and some of the Pharisees. Plenty of men believe in Jesus and few men follow Him. If you are going to ask yourself the question of I am a real man, you ought to start here. Do I believe in Jesus or do I follow Him? There is a real difference between the two.

Now to the second part of the definition; the word leads. If you don’t think Jesus is calling you to become a leader then you probably aren’t following Him. In fact I can guarantee you are ignoring the last words He spoke to all of His followers. “Go into the world and make disciples…” If you’ve got a way to make disciples and not be a leader I would love to hear about it. So then, how does one lead? If you focus on Jesus and follow Him, leadership is an automatic outcome. Surely it can’t be that simple? John Maxwell defined leadership as influence. So if you follow Jesus then you influence people, you teach them and encourage them to follow Jesus with you. Yes, for heaven’s sake (literally) you live by example. Leadership is as simple as following Jesus.

The last part of the definition is his world. I can’t tell you what your world is, that’s between you and God. I am willing to suggest that it ought to start close to home though. Let me just say this; a real man cares about his family and is willing to bust his tail to get his family life right. That may mean your wife and kids, or it may mean your parents or neighbors. For some of us our family is our friends. Your world is your mission field, it’s your responsibility and it’s as big as you’ve got the guts to make it.

Sure, I could have come up with something a little easier and something that sounds like a lot more fun. I know it may not be the most attractive definition of what it means to be a real man, but there you have it. A real man follows Jesus and leads his world. It’s really the only way I know how to put it. There is no promise of conquest or success, no monetary measuring stick and it doesn’t come with a fake persona to hide behind. In fact the persona most important in it isn’t yours. It’s that of Jesus. Am I suggesting that being a real man isn’t about you? Yes, I am. That is exactly the point. You my friend are flawed and so am I. Being a real man isn’t about me or you, it’s all about following Jesus.

Stay thirsty for that my friends.

Ryan Reeves

Founder and Director

ryanreeves@menofjesus.org